It’s been awhile since I wrote a blog. Few weeks ago the mind of a writer is not in me. I felt so down; bombarded with problems concerning my friend’s untimely pregnancy. I have something in mind but I could not even think of a good title and I was so lazy to scribble. Indeed, the mood of the blogger affects the beauty of a well-polished blog.
After experiencing the process of DABDA in Stages of Grief, I am ready for a new blog. Oh wait, maybe you might be wondering what is DABDA. DABDA is an acronym for the 5 stages of Grief according to Kubler-Ross. The acronym stands for D=Denial, the stage where you deny the occurrence of an overwhelming situation, A=Anger, the feeling where you blame someone responsible for the awful event, B=Bargaining, seeks delay the dreaded event, D=Depression, accepting the awful reality, and A=Acceptance, the stage to see the brighter side and move on to a better life. DABDA may convey dying as its main use in nursing, on the other hand, I can say that we can use this on horrifying events that we might be experiencing.
However, this is not about that matter. This blog is about the ever legendary definition of LOVE. I know this article is too late for the Heart’s Day but blogging is not seasonal and it is always on whim. We are often blinded with the real meaning of LOVE. In connection, untimely pregnancies, hasty motherhood/fatherhood and abortions are the common end if we indulge ourselves in intimate relationship. Can you differentiate what is REAL LOVE from ROMANTIC INFATUATION? Frequently human as we are, think that the fast beating of your heart when you see that person, when you can not get him/her out of your mind is love. Are you certain about it? Which feeling can you exclaim that it is love and which one is not?
In my church, we have this annual event for the youth which we call “Love Banquet”. It showcases concerns about Christian youth dealing about Courting, Dating and Relationships. I’ve had learned a good point how to distinguish Love from puppy love, which, I want my friends and fellow bloggers to know as well. Hopefully, after this you can decipher the difference between the two and be wise enough.
ROMANTIC INFATUATION/PUPPY LOVE:
The kind if feeling that happens suddenly and without warning. People often call this as “connection”. The common dictum that says I’m falling in love. The affection is based on sight and more on physical attraction e.g. beautiful/handsome, tall, sexy/hunk and it is more on your “ideals”. A self-centered (always demanding “if you love me, you need to do this”, possessive (I own you), fantasy and blind kind of feeling and emphasizes external beauty.
On contrast,
REAL/TRUE LOVE
This emotion grows in the passing of time. This feeling is about you being slowly but surely getting to know the person more and it’s grown in love. It is based on knowledge and character attraction. (You love the person not because he/she is good looking, or because he/she is intelligent. It is more on accepting his/her strengths and weaknesses. It is steady, commitment a waits. This is factual as to the idea that true love waits. The feeling is outgoing, never demanding, respects decisions and supportive, sees and knows and emphasizes internal beauty.
You may add other things as how you personally experience both feelings but I am really convinced that these set of descriptions are good enough for you to know if it’s real or not. The next time you feel it, THINK. As what the common adage says “It is better to be broken hearted than to have broken family in the future”. What is Real Love for you? Inform the world what do you feel. Post a comment. Enjoy being loved and being in love.
After experiencing the process of DABDA in Stages of Grief, I am ready for a new blog. Oh wait, maybe you might be wondering what is DABDA. DABDA is an acronym for the 5 stages of Grief according to Kubler-Ross. The acronym stands for D=Denial, the stage where you deny the occurrence of an overwhelming situation, A=Anger, the feeling where you blame someone responsible for the awful event, B=Bargaining, seeks delay the dreaded event, D=Depression, accepting the awful reality, and A=Acceptance, the stage to see the brighter side and move on to a better life. DABDA may convey dying as its main use in nursing, on the other hand, I can say that we can use this on horrifying events that we might be experiencing.
However, this is not about that matter. This blog is about the ever legendary definition of LOVE. I know this article is too late for the Heart’s Day but blogging is not seasonal and it is always on whim. We are often blinded with the real meaning of LOVE. In connection, untimely pregnancies, hasty motherhood/fatherhood and abortions are the common end if we indulge ourselves in intimate relationship. Can you differentiate what is REAL LOVE from ROMANTIC INFATUATION? Frequently human as we are, think that the fast beating of your heart when you see that person, when you can not get him/her out of your mind is love. Are you certain about it? Which feeling can you exclaim that it is love and which one is not?
In my church, we have this annual event for the youth which we call “Love Banquet”. It showcases concerns about Christian youth dealing about Courting, Dating and Relationships. I’ve had learned a good point how to distinguish Love from puppy love, which, I want my friends and fellow bloggers to know as well. Hopefully, after this you can decipher the difference between the two and be wise enough.
ROMANTIC INFATUATION/PUPPY LOVE:
The kind if feeling that happens suddenly and without warning. People often call this as “connection”. The common dictum that says I’m falling in love. The affection is based on sight and more on physical attraction e.g. beautiful/handsome, tall, sexy/hunk and it is more on your “ideals”. A self-centered (always demanding “if you love me, you need to do this”, possessive (I own you), fantasy and blind kind of feeling and emphasizes external beauty.
On contrast,
REAL/TRUE LOVE
This emotion grows in the passing of time. This feeling is about you being slowly but surely getting to know the person more and it’s grown in love. It is based on knowledge and character attraction. (You love the person not because he/she is good looking, or because he/she is intelligent. It is more on accepting his/her strengths and weaknesses. It is steady, commitment a waits. This is factual as to the idea that true love waits. The feeling is outgoing, never demanding, respects decisions and supportive, sees and knows and emphasizes internal beauty.
You may add other things as how you personally experience both feelings but I am really convinced that these set of descriptions are good enough for you to know if it’s real or not. The next time you feel it, THINK. As what the common adage says “It is better to be broken hearted than to have broken family in the future”. What is Real Love for you? Inform the world what do you feel. Post a comment. Enjoy being loved and being in love.
I believe that it is important to have a little of both these factors! If your in a relationship where you are not physically attracted to one another or 1 is not attracted to the other it will lead problems later or early in the sexual part of a relationship. There really is no relationship without sexual courting as it will lead to straying or cheating most likely... The connection is also very important! Without a connection of interests, physical appeal or just that you make me feel so alive connection the relationship will be conflicting and will become filled with boredom, anger, what if's and worst of all possible straying... After having a long term connection, great sex life and insurpassible acceptance of your mates flaws; Then my friend you are in LOVE and should start planning to have a LIFE long relationship full of children and irreplacable good times!
ReplyDeleteGood Job, I wish I was a good skill'd writer like you, Pearl...Keep up the good work!
ReplyDelete“It is better to be broken hearted than to have broken family in the future”.
ReplyDeleteTotally agree on this.
See you around.